亲密关系经历量表

亲密关系经历量表（Experiences in Close Relationships Inventory，简称 ECR）是由Brennan等人于1998年编制，用于测量成人依恋。

中文版由李同归于2006年翻译并修订。

内容简介

ECR为自评量表，共36个条目，包括依恋回避和依恋焦虑2个维度，采用7点评分量表，从“1= 非常不同意”到“7 = 非常同意”。

量表英文版

	Strongly Disagree	Disagree	Slightly Disagree	Neutral	Slightly Agree	Agree	Strongly Agree
1. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
2. I worry about being abandoned.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
3. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
4. I worry a lot about my relationships.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
5. Just when my partner starts to get close to me I find myself pulling away.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
6. I worry that romantic partners wont care about me as much as I care about them.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
7. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
8. I worry a fair amount about losing my partner.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
9. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
10. I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him/her.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
11. I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
12. I often want to merge completely with romantic partners, and this sometimes scares them away.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
13. I am nervous when partners get too close to me.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
14. I worry about being alone.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
15. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
16. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
17. I try to avoid getting too close to my partner.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
18. I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
19. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
20. Sometimes I feel that I force my partners to show more feeling, more commitment.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
22. I do not often worry about being abandoned.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
23. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
24. If I can't get my partner to show interest in me, I get upset or angry.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
25. I tell my partner just about everything.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
26. I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I would like.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
27. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
28. When I'm not involved in a relationship, I feel somewhat anxious and insecure.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
29. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
30. I get frustrated when my partner is not around as much as I would like.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
31. I don't mind asking romantic partners for comfort, advice, or help.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
32. I get frustrated if romantic partners are not available when I need them.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
33. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
34. When romantic partners disapprove of me, I feel really bad about myself.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
35. I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
36. I resent it when my partner spends time away from me.	1	2	3	4	5	6	7

量表中文版

指导语：下面给出了许多句子，都是描述恋爱关系中的每个人可能会有的感觉。在你的恋爱关系中，你自己的一般体验与每个句子描述的情况相似的地方有多大? 选择一个最符合的选项。注意：这里并不仅仅是指现在的恋爱经历，它针对的是你所有恋爱经历中常常体验到的感觉。

	非常不同意	不同意	有点不同意	中立	有点同意	同意	非常同意
1. 总的来说，我不喜欢让恋人知道自己内心深处的感觉	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
2. 我担心我会被抛弃	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
3. 我觉得跟恋人亲近是一件惬意的事情	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
4. 我很担心我的恋爱关系	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
5. 当恋人开始要跟我亲近时，我发现我自己在退缩	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
6. 我担心恋人不会象我关心他/她那样地关心我	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
7. 当恋人希望跟我非常亲近时，我会觉得不自在	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
8. 我有点担心会失去恋人	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
9. 我觉得对恋人开诚布公，不是一件很舒服的事情	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
10. 我常常希望恋人对我的感情和我对恋人的感情一样强烈	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
11. 我想与恋人亲近，但我又总是会退缩不前	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
12. 我常常想与恋人形影不离，但有时这样会把恋人吓跑	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
13. 当恋人跟我过分亲密的时候，我会感到内心紧张	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
14. 我担心一个人独处	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
15. 我愿意把我内心的想法和感觉告诉恋人，我觉得这是一件自在的事情	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
16. 我想跟恋人非常亲密的愿望，有时会把恋人吓跑	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
17. 我试图避免与恋人变得太亲近	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
18. 我需要我的恋人一再地保证他/她是爱我的	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
19. 我觉得我比较容易与恋人亲近	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
20. 我觉得自己在要求恋人把更多的感觉，以及对恋爱关系的投入程度表现出来	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
21. 我发现让我依赖恋人，是一件困难的事情	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
22. 我并不是常常担心被恋人抛弃	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
23. 我倾向于不跟恋人过分亲密	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
24. 如果我无法得到恋人的注意和关心，我会心烦意乱或者生气	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
25. 我跟恋人什么事情都讲	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
26. 我发现恋人并不愿意象我所想的那样跟我亲近	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
27. 我经常与恋人讨论我所遇到的问题以及我关心的事情	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
28. 如果我还没有恋人的话，我会感到有点焦虑和不安	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
29. 我觉得依赖恋人是很自在的事情	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
30. 如果恋人不能象我所希望的那样在我身边时，我会感到灰心丧气	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
31. 我并不在意从恋人那里寻找安慰，听取劝告,得到帮助	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
32. 如果在我需要的时候,恋人却不在我身边，我会感到沮丧	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
33. 在需要的时候,我向恋人求助，是很有用的	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
34. 当恋人不赞同我时，我觉得确实是我不好	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
35. 我会在很多事情上向恋人求助，包括寻求安慰和得到承诺	1	2	3	4	5	6	7
36. 当恋人不花时间和我在一起时，我会感到怨恨	1	2	3	4	5	6	7

亲密关系经历量表（Experiences in Close Relationships Inventory）